Choose Your Employer Carefully

Over the course of my career, I have had the opportunity to work for a variety of bosses. Some good. Some not. After 10 years in the working world, I’ve decided to return to my very first employer, the one who brought me on as an intern and showed me the ropes. They’ve been a continual point of reference for me over the years, and I’m happy to return – older, smarter, and with some great experiences under my belt.

Remember, looking for a job is like dating…Be informed and particular.

What’s the biggest reason for making the switch? The owners of the company. Frankly, they’re easily described as people who just ‘get it’ and I’ve always admired them. Here are some of the factors that helped me to make my decision; maybe they’ll help you, too:

• Body Language – When it’s time for the in-person interview, body language is a dead giveaway for how your future boss will operate. If your potential boss sits across the desk from you with their arms folded tensely across their chest and they look like they’d rather be somewhere else, then take note. They should be looking for the best fit for their organization and be dialed into the interview. Remember, your time is important, too. Make sure that you’re greeted with a firm handshake, and eye contact is a must.
• Physical Fitness - Now before I get into this, let me first say that I know that there are some very smart, very great people in this world that are a bit flabby around the belt line. But we’re looking for a leader, someone that has a well-rounded lifestyle and looks themselves in the mirror daily to make sure they’re in check. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to your future boss’ physical well-being. Someone that finds time to get to the gym and eats healthy is planning on being around for a while, and their work-life balance is where it needs to be.
• Observe Your Surroundings - Sometimes this one can be a little hard, considering that some companies have interview rooms that are void of any decorations, but if you’re lucky enough to meet with your potential employer in their office, then I strongly encourage you to take a look around. People surround themselves with things that make them happy. Is their office cluttered with papers or is it neatly organized? Do they have pictures of their family or are their walls adorned with diplomas, certificates, and awards? Is their desk facing the door or do they have their back turned to it? All of these things will quickly give you an indication of how your potential boss views the workplace, and what is important to him/her in this world.
• Dress The Part - Your clothing says a lot about you. I’ll never forget the day that I hopped onto an elevator with one of my previous employer’s executives. While we were hurdling up 40 stories, he took one look at my bargain dress shoes and scoffed. I was clearly not dressed appropriately to him, and for as long as I was there, I never wore those shoes again. Your boss’ attire will let you know a lot about his/her management style. Are they pushing the boundaries of business casual or are they wearing custom tailored shirts with their initials on the cuffs? Neither way is wrong, but ensure that it works for you.
• Transparency - This may be a difficult one to hone in on, but a true sign is ‘business speak’. If your potential employer thinks that phrases like “synergistic alliances”, “paradigm shifts”, and “value propositions” are a part of the English language then politely stand up, thank them for their time, and exit the building immediately. Anyone that masks their words is masking other things as well.
• Any Questions? – The most important part of the interview comes at the end, where the interviewer becomes quiet, takes a deep breath, and says “Do you have any questions for me?” Now is your time to really find out about them and their part in the organization. What do they do to support the organization’s vision statement? Can they outline what the next 1-5 years looks like and how you would be supporting that movement? What do they think is the best and worst part of the organization? Get in there and find out the details.

Remember, looking for a job is like dating. It’s rare that you marry the first girl person you meet. Be informed and particular. With the wrong person leading you, your professional development may be grossly hampered, but with the right kind of leadership, mixed with your personal drive to succeed, you can make a difference.

2011

2010: A Year In Retrospect

2010 was a busy year. One that flew by so quickly that left me sometimes wishing that I could somehow put on the brakes, but with a lot of perseverance and support, I crossed the following off of my list:

• truebluetitan returned,
• Built and moved into a new townhouse,
• Ended relationships with old friendships acquaintances,
• Built new stronger relationships,
• Obtained my PMP certification,
• Started taking MBA classes, and
• Received a promotion at work.

2011: From Good To Great

Unquestionably, it was the hardest year of my life, but it gave me confidence in knowing that I am moving in the right direction. As you will read below, 2011 is all about constructing a “house” on the foundation that I crafted last year. It’s going to be another whirlwind year, but I’m confident that the last year of my twenties will be one for the history books. Here are my 2011 Resolutions:

1. Live for Him. Above all else, I want to continue changing the focus of my life from what I want to do and control to what He wants me to do. In 2010 I began regularly attending mass and even joined a bible study group. It was a great first step, but in 2011, I need to focus on going from a human “doing” to a human “being” and truly live for Him.
2. Get Organized. I used to be the epitome of an organized person. I had all of my paperwork organized in color-coded folders. A label maker was my best friend and Mint.com was a site that I visited many times a day. Fast-forward a year and I’m certainly off of my game. Combine that with a mailman that sometimes delivers my mail to me and you’re just beginning to see the tip of my frustration iceberg. It’s time to get back on target – I can’t accomplish the rest of these resolutions without this one.
3. Give Back. I focused a lot on myself last year knowing that I can’t truly help anyone else unless I felt strong in who I was. And so I promised myself that I would help others just as soon as I felt that I had my feet firmly planted. Thankfully, I’m there, and a large focus of mine this year will be to help others achieve their goals and aspirations.
4. Be An Entrepreneur. Ever since I was 17 I have run a business in one form or another. It’s an amazing feeling to work for yourself, but at times it can be quite stressful and quickly eat up every free hour that you have. With my newfound elevated responsibility at my day job, I need to take a long hard look at myself in the mirror and decide what I’m going to do in this realm this year. There will be no more ala carte side jobs. If I’m going to grow my business then I need to stick with what I do best, eliminate the rest, and excel.
5. Financial Freedom. In 2011, I want to be debt free, minus my mortgage. Having just bought a car in 2010 this is going to be quite a challenge, but I’m confident that I can make it happen. Ever since I was an adult I have carried some form of debt. That ends this year.
6. Physical Fitness. Last year a friend introduced me to Tony Horton’s P90X Extreme Home Fitness Workout Program. Since then, I have attempted the program twice, but haven’t been able to successfully push my way through the entire 90-day regiment. It’s the most humbling routine that I have ever tried, and the time commitment requires a lifestyle change. In 2011, I will complete the program at least twice and be in the best shape of my life – just in time for the big 3 – 0.
7. Focus my Hobbies. I’m a tinkerer. I like to try a lot of different things. As a result I have a lot of different hobbies. Too many. I want need to focus on just a few of them and take time to really enjoy myself. In 2011, I’m going to limit my hobbies to digital photography (with my new Nikon D90), learning guitar, and home interior design/renovation of my new townhouse.

8. Eliminate Distractions. Let’s face it. I will never accomplish the other resolutions unless I eliminate the distractions in my life. In 2010 I made great strides in cutting drama from my life by distancing myself from the “Must Be Nice” and “I Need To” people (more on them at a later date) that I know.

   In 2011, I will continue to eliminate distractions and focus on removing the less constructive habits that I’ve formed (i.e. watching television and pointless Internet surfing) and replace them with more exciting habits (i.e. Reading through my book backlog and focusing on my new hobbies).

So there you have it. I’m praying that I can usher in 2012 with a checklist of accomplished items and talk about the ferver I have for my life, but only time will tell. Until then, I wish you all a very happy New Year and hope that this is the year for you.

What Motivates You?

My management team at work is reading the book The Secret: What Great Leaders Know — And Do by Ken Blanchard (look for a full review later). As part of the discussion, a member of the team asked “What motivates you?” and we decided to go around the room and have each attendee explain the motivational factors that keep them engaged in their job. Most of the answers were predictable: “It’s the people that motivate me.”

I was the last to go, and boy, was I nervous. As each person ended their explanation and the next person began, I could feel my heartbeat quicken. When it was the turn of the person next to me I’m pretty sure that the pulsing of my heart was visible through my button down.

But I wasn’t nervous about speaking in front of this group. I knew everyone fairly well, and am comfortable talking to each one of them. My nerves were heightened because of the decision that I was faced with: Do I give a cookie cutter answer or do I speak from the heart and truly let everyone know what motivates me? Don’t get me wrong – Everyone’s answers were good, but they felt safe, and guarded, and if I was going to get people to understand then I needed to be transparent.

Finally, it was my turn and I could feel the eyes in the room slowly begin to look my way. I took a deep breath, leaned forward in my chair, resting my elbows on my knees and slowly began to rub my hands together. After a moment, I cleared my throat and said:

Note: This is a paraphrase of what I said in the room as I can’t recollect it verbatim.

You may fool the
whole world down the
pathway of life,

And get pats on your
back as you pass,

But your final reward will
be heartaches and tears

If you’ve cheated the
man in the glass.

“This is going to sound awfully superficial, but please bear with me, because it is not. Every morning and every night I look at myself in the mirror…

…When I look into that mirror I see me – for better or for worse. And when I see myself I ask a question, “Do I like the guy that is looking back at me?” Sometimes the answer is no, and it’s on those days that I know I have to make a change.

Only I truly know who I am, and I need to be honest with myself, because at the end of the day, when I stand in front of the mirror brushing my teeth, I’m right there, looking back at me. Now I’m not a horrible person, however, every once in a while I behave in a manner that is not representative of who I am or who I want to become.

To be a leader I need to act like a leader – what motivates me is the burden of leadership. Sure, being a leader is a gift, but what keeps me engaged is the fact that you and I accepted a management position knowing that it was our responsibility to lead. Sitting at this table as a manager in this organization does not automatically mean that we are leaders. Anyone can be a leader and if you look across our organization you can clearly see that there are leaders among us without management titles. It is our responsibility to know who they are and embrace their skills.

And being a leader means that we have to constantly step up our game. We are here to serve our teams – not tell them what they have to do. This management team needs to be on the same page. We need to bring our problems to this group and help one another solve them so that when we leave this room we leave as a team with one voice, and collectively show the rest of the organization where we’re going.

It is my responsibility to always be a couple of steps ahead of my team and remove whatever roadblocks may cross their paths. My shoulders are there for my team members to stand on so that they may become better at their jobs and hopefully better than I can be.

…That is what motivates me.”

It was a hard thing to say outloud, and I’m sure that I had a red face and glassy eyes at the end of it. But I’m pretty passionate about life and it felt great to be completely transparent with my team. In the days and weeks to come we’ll see what happens as a result of the conversation, but already, I feel that we respect each other even more because of the exercise.

So what motivates you? It doesn’t have to be work-related. What are you passionate about and how do you make it a part of your life daily? What do you do to stay the course?

Finishing the Definition

When I bought this domain name, truebluetitan.com, I was searching for a word or series of words that would describe my purpose in life. A littler deeper than the usual domain search, I know. The combining definitions of the phrase “true blue” and the word “titan” seemed to fit perfectly – “one of prodigious size, strength, and achievement with inflexible faith and integrity”. My north star was born, and from it, a rather clear perspective on what life was about.

One of prodigious size, strength, and achievement with inflexible faith and integrity for the Glory of God.

Five years have quickly gone by since the creation of my north star. Since then, I kept finding myself looking at the words, re-evaluating them, and at the same time, myself. Something was missing. Sure, the word encompasses everything that I want to be in this world, but it doesn’t say why. I’ve felt this way for a long time, and my usual inner-voice response was “because it’s the right thing to do”, but that answer only pacifies me temporarily.

Well, I’m proud to say that, after a lot of soul-searching, I now understand why I feel this way about myself and life. My north star is God, who sent His only son to this earth to die for us. This is why I need to be the best man I can be – for Him. Now, the definition is finished. Everything I do is “for the Glory of God”.

Starting Over

2009: The fall of the foundation

As the sun was setting on the 2009 Calendar year it felt like everything in life was falling into place. I was engaged and we were busy planning the rest of our lives together. Then life did what it does best and threw a monkey wrench in those plans. The foundation on which I had spent years building crumbled quickly and painfully, and with it, took everything built on top of it.

For over a year I kept my heart behind a rather thick wall. I stuck with what I was good at – work, and very quickly pushed away anyone who might have the remote chance of hurting me. Thankfully, a lot of wonderful people never gave up on me and urged me to have some über heart-to-hearts with the big guy. That soul searching was just what the doctor ordered. As 2010 comes to a close I feel at peace with the new direction of my life and am starting to think “What’s next for me?”

What does this mean for TBT?

I’m a firm believer in having a strong foundation from which to build on. Truebluetitan is the core of who I am and I plan to use this space to document everything positive that has come out of my experience – how it has renewed my faith, made me a better leader, and inspired me to give back even more. So it’s time to get focused…

Until next time, I have a few parting words:

1. Life is unpredictable. Go with it. When life throws a jab at you, try your best to duck and weave to miss getting hit. Sometimes, like me, you get a left hook to the face and get knocked off of your feet. It’s OK to stay down for a bit, but collect yourself and get back up before you’re out of the game for good. If you can’t do it on your own – call me. I’ll help.
2. Stay The Course. Sometimes things don’t go the way you want them to. Instead of stomping your feet and saying that life is not fair, do something about it. Stick up for what you believe in and continue to move towards your true north.
3. Set Your Foundation. Sure, I lost something that meant the world to me. However, I didn’t lose everything. Knowing who I am at my core has helped me through the bad times and it will do the same for you.

Can you relate?

Have you ever gone through something that shook your core only to get back up and think “That’s all you got?” If so, I’d love to hear your story.